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Why Divorce Rates Are Increasing Among Spouses in Nigeria …Way Out

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Marriage, a sacred institution in many cultures, has always been held in high regard in Nigeria. However, the rising number of divorce cases in recent years is causing concern among observers and stakeholders in the society. What could be the reasons behind this alarming trend? Below are some of the key factors contributing to the growing rate of divorces in Nigeria.

1. Economic Challenges

Financial instability remains one of the leading causes of marital breakdown in Nigeria. Many households struggle with unemployment, inflation, and low wages, which can create stress and tension between spouses. The inability to meet financial obligations often leads to resentment, frequent arguments, and ultimately separation.

2. Infidelity

Infidelity is another major factor contributing to divorce. Cultural expectations sometimes pressure men or women into extramarital affairs, and modern influences have made it easier to maintain such relationships secretly. When discovered, betrayal often erodes trust, making reconciliation difficult.

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3. Poor Communication

Communication is the foundation of any healthy relationship. However, many Nigerian couples struggle with effective communication. Misunderstandings, unspoken grievances, and unresolved conflicts often escalate, leading to irreparable damage in the marriage.

4. Cultural and Religious Differences

Nigeria’s rich cultural and religious diversity can sometimes be a source of division rather than unity in marriages. Differences in cultural practices, values, and religious beliefs can create friction, especially if these issues were not adequately addressed before marriage.

5. Domestic Violence and Abuse

Domestic violence, whether physical, emotional, or psychological, is a growing concern in Nigerian marriages. Many victims choose to leave abusive relationships to protect their well-being and that of their children. Increasing awareness of rights and the availability of support systems have empowered more individuals to take this step.

6. Western Influence and Changing Social Norms

Globalization and exposure to Western ideals have brought about changes in societal attitudes toward marriage and divorce. In the past, divorce was heavily stigmatized, but it is increasingly viewed as a viable option for escaping unhappy unions. Women, in particular, are now more empowered to leave toxic relationships due to changing societal perceptions and improved access to education and employment opportunities.

7. Unrealistic Expectations

Many couples enter marriage with unrealistic expectations of love, finances, and companionship. When these expectations are not met, disappointment can lead to dissatisfaction and conflict, ultimately resulting in separation.

8. Family Interference

In Nigeria, extended families often play a significant role in the lives of married couples. While support from family can be beneficial, excessive interference can cause conflicts and strain relationships. Overbearing in-laws or meddling relatives can create a toxic environment for the couple.

9. Lack of Premarital Counseling

Premarital counseling is crucial for preparing couples for the realities of marriage. Unfortunately, many Nigerian couples do not receive proper counseling before tying the knot. This lack of preparation leaves them ill-equipped to handle marital challenges effectively.

Addressing the Crisis

To reduce the rising divorce rates, Nigerian society must address these underlying causes. Couples should prioritize communication, seek counseling when necessary, and strive for mutual respect and understanding. Additionally, societal institutions, including religious organizations and traditional leaders, must emphasize the importance of realistic expectations and promote conflict resolution.

Divorce may sometimes be inevitable, especially in cases involving abuse or irreconcilable differences. However, fostering a culture of mutual respect, empathy, and preparedness can help reduce the rate of marital breakdowns in Nigeria.

The Way Out of the Divorce Crisis: Practical Solutions for Marital Stability

Divorce has become a significant social issue in many parts of the world, including Nigeria, leading to broken homes, emotional distress, and financial instability. While divorce is sometimes inevitable, especially in abusive or toxic relationships, it is crucial to explore ways to reduce the frequency of marital breakdowns and foster stronger, healthier relationships. Below are some actionable solutions to address the divorce crisis effectively.

1. Encourage Premarital Counseling

Premarital counseling prepares couples for the realities of marriage by helping them understand each other’s values, expectations, and potential challenges. Religious organizations, community groups, and professional counselors should advocate for and provide accessible premarital counseling sessions to equip couples with the tools to navigate married life.

2. Promote Open Communication

Effective communication is the foundation of a successful marriage. Couples should be encouraged to express their feelings, needs, and concerns openly and respectfully. Workshops and seminars on communication skills can help partners learn to resolve conflicts constructively, fostering deeper understanding and connection.

3. Address Financial Challenges Together

Financial strain is a leading cause of divorce. Couples should work as a team to manage their finances effectively, including setting budgets, saving for future goals, and sharing financial responsibilities. Financial literacy programs targeting married couples can provide practical strategies to reduce money-related stress.

4. Tackle Infidelity Through Counseling

Infidelity often stems from unmet emotional or physical needs. Couples experiencing infidelity should be encouraged to seek professional counseling to rebuild trust and address the root causes of the betrayal. While not every relationship can survive infidelity, proper intervention can help many couples heal and move forward.

5. Strengthen Emotional Intelligence

Developing emotional intelligence (EQ) helps individuals manage their emotions and empathize with their partners. Higher EQ enables couples to handle conflicts more effectively and maintain emotional stability during challenging times. Workshops and self-help resources on emotional intelligence can make a significant difference.

6. Promote Individual Growth Within Marriage

Sometimes, marriages fail because one or both partners feel stifled or undervalued. Encouraging spouses to pursue personal growth, hobbies, and career aspirations can enhance their sense of fulfillment, which positively impacts their relationship.

7. Address Domestic Violence

Domestic violence is a non-negotiable issue that must be tackled head-on. Victims of abuse should have access to safe spaces, legal support, and counseling. Additionally, communities should focus on educating men and women about the importance of respect and non-violence in relationships to prevent abuse before it starts.

8. Reduce External Interference

Extended family and societal pressures often exacerbate marital issues. Couples should be encouraged to set boundaries with their families and prioritize their partnership. Creating support groups for newlyweds can help them navigate external pressures and focus on their relationship.

9. Foster a Culture of Conflict Resolution

Instead of viewing divorce as the first option during conflicts, couples should be taught conflict-resolution techniques. Mediation services and family support programs can guide couples in finding middle ground without resorting to separation.

10. Reframe Societal Expectations

Society often places unrealistic expectations on couples, especially regarding gender roles, finances, and parenting. Changing these narratives through education, media campaigns, and community engagement can reduce the pressure on spouses, allowing them to build relationships based on mutual respect and realistic goals.

11. Leverage Faith and Support Systems

For many Nigerians, faith plays a central role in their lives. Religious institutions can provide spiritual guidance, marriage counseling, and community support to help couples navigate difficulties. Encouraging couples to draw strength from their faith can often provide the resolve needed to work through challenges.

12. Make Professional Counseling Accessible

Marital counseling services should be made affordable and widely available. Government and private organizations can partner to establish counseling centers in urban and rural areas, ensuring that couples have access to professional help when needed.

Conclusion

While divorce may sometimes be necessary for personal well-being, many marital issues can be resolved through proactive measures and a supportive environment. By addressing the root causes of marital conflicts and equipping couples with the tools to handle challenges, society can significantly reduce divorce rates and create stronger, healthier families.

Working together—individuals, families, communities, and institutions—Nigeria can overcome the divorce crisis and restore the sanctity of marriage.

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Tinubu Orders Rescue of Kidnap Victims, Demands Peaceful 2027 Elections

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President Bola Tinubu has directed heads of security agencies to rescue all abducted persons and ensure that no terrorist or bandit camp remains anywhere in Nigeria, the Minister of Defence, Gen. Christopher Musa (retd.), said on Thursday.

Musa, who spoke to State House correspondents after a security meeting presided over by the President at the Presidential Villa, Abuja, said Tinubu also asked the service chiefs and other security heads to guarantee a safe environment for Nigerians to vote in the elections scheduled for January.

The minister said the meeting was convened to brief the President on the security situation ahead of the polls, with all heads of security agencies in attendance.

“The directive from the President is: all of us must go all out to fish out and rescue all those that have been abducted, kidnapped, wherever they are.

“There shouldn’t be any camp of any terrorists or bandits anywhere in Nigeria,” he stated.

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Musa said Tinubu made it clear that he wanted a free, fair and credible election, and assured political parties that the security forces would not take sides.

Musa stated, “Mr President made it very clear he wants a free, fair and credible election. We must do everything possible to ensure that the country is safe and secure for the citizens to go out and vote.

“We are going to ensure that we give everybody the opportunity to go and serve, so they have nothing to worry about, nothing to be afraid of, and nobody is going to intimidate them for whatever reasons.”

He added that it was “important for all other political parties to understand that the security forces are going to be neutral.”

The minister rejected suggestions that underage persons were being recruited into the armed forces, saying the concern related to the use of children by terrorists.

According to Musa, “There is nobody that is underage that is being brought here. I think the discussion that was made was that the accusation was on the terrorists using underage.

“We know that we don’t have control over what they do, and that’s why we need to understand that we must not allow them to remain wherever they are.”

On efforts to boost the capacity of the security forces, Musa cited increased recruitment, training and procurement.

He said Tinubu would soon inaugurate about 10 newly acquired aircraft and helicopters.

“Mr President is coming to commission a set of new aircraft and helicopters that have been bought.

“I think almost about 10 of them in number, and to show Nigerians that despite the economic issue, the issue of security is on the front burner of Mr President’s view,” he announced.

He pointed to the recent salary increase for members of the armed forces and said improvements for the police, other agencies and pensioners were being addressed.

“Nobody is going to be left behind,” he said.

On August 4, Tinubu approved salary increases of between 30 and 80 per cent for about 250,000 armed forces personnel, effective September 1.

Privates to staff sergeants got the highest rise, at 80 per cent, while officers above the rank of colonel got 30 per cent. The yearly salary bill rose from N660bn to N924bn.

In October 2025, the Defence Ministry said 24 aircraft, including 10 AW109 Trekker attack helicopters and M-346 fighter jets, were being built for Nigeria by Leonardo in Italy, for delivery in four batches.

The minister urged Nigerians to support the security agencies, including by reporting wrongdoing by security personnel.

He argued, “Security is everybody’s responsibility. It’s not only for members of security forces. Everyone has a role to play.

“Whatever you see that is going wrong, even with our members that are not doing what is right, please don’t hesitate to report. Action will be taken.”

The meeting was attended by the National Security Adviser, Nuhu Ribadu; the Minister of Police Affairs, Ibrahim Gaidam; the Minister of State for Defence, Bello Matawalle; and the Special Adviser to the President on Homeland Security, Maj Gen Adeyinka Famadewa (retd.).

Others present were the Chief of Army Staff, Lt Gen Waidi Shaibu; the Chief of Naval Staff, Vice Adm Idi Abbas; the Chief of Air Staff, Air Marshal Sunday Aneke; the Chief of Defence Intelligence, Lt Gen Emmanuel Undiandeye; the Inspector-General of Police, Olatunji Disu; the Director-General of the National Intelligence Agency, Mohammed Mohammed; and the Director-General of the Department of State Services, Adeola Ajayi.

Thursday’s meeting comes 90 days before Nigerians head into the January 2027 general elections, with the presidential poll scheduled for January 16.

Impeccable sources familiar with the discussions held at the meeting told our correspondent that the President ordered the deployment of forest guards in all reclaimed territories from terrorists and bandits, to prevent them from reoccupying areas from where the military had dislodged them.

The sources also said the council discussed the designation of power facilities as critical national assets, following repeated vandalism, and that the President asked for a review of possible restrictions to stem the risk of Ebola entering Nigeria.

One of the sources said the military, by the nature of its operations, clears areas and moves on, often leaving retaken swaths of land open for reoccupation by terrorists.

“The President has directed that we deploy forest guards to hold the grounds that the military has taken. The military does not hold ground. They simply clear the place and move.

“When the military clears the place, these insurgents, they run. And once we take it, we can’t stay there, so they come back.

“The plan now is to deploy forest guards to hold some of these territories,” one high-ranking official stated.

However, the official did not say how many guards would be deployed, in which states, or when.

The Presidential Forest Guards Initiative, coordinated by the Office of the National Security Adviser, was launched in May 2025.

It was conceived in February 2024 after a meeting with state governors, who were asked to recruit between 2,000 and 5,000 guards each.

On December 10, 2025, Tinubu directed the NSA, Nuhu Ribadu, to begin the “immediate training, arming, and deployment of additional forest guards nationwide.”

The President said, “We need all the forces we can utilise.”

On December 27, 2025, more than 7,000 guards graduated after three months of training and were deployed in seven states including Borno, Sokoto, Yobe, Adamawa, Niger, Kwara and Kebbi.

Ribadu described them as a “force multiplier” and said they would “identify hot spots” in forests.

He stated that the Department of State Services and the National Park Service will handle operational coordination.

After the May 15, 2026 abduction of pupils and teachers in Oriire Local Government Area of Oyo State, the Federal Government said Tinubu had approved the recruitment of 1,000 more guards for the state.

In August, the programme grew to 10 states, with over 2,000 more trained in Kaduna, Edo and Kogi, reportedly bringing the total to about 9,000.

On February 19, 2016, the Chief of Defence Staff, Gen Olufemi Oluyede, inaugurated Operation Savannah Shield in Kwara, vowing that forests and ungoverned spaces “will no longer serve as safe havens” for terrorists.

Another official familiar with Thursday’s deliberations said the council discussed attacks on electricity infrastructure.

“Because of the problems of vandalism of power facilities, we are already working to designate it as a critical national asset. It was brought up at the meeting to be designated.

“It has to be designated before we can now take appropriate action on it,” the official said.

On June 24, 2024, Tinubu signed the Critical National Information Infrastructure Order, which listed power generation and distribution among 13 sectors and tasked the NSA with protecting them.

In October 2024, vandalism of the Shiroro–Kaduna line plunged about 17 northern states into darkness.

Tinubu at the time said the government would no longer tolerate sabotage of public utilities and ordered security cover for repair crews.

A third source said the council also reviewed the Ebola outbreak in Central Africa, which he said was rising.

According to the official, “We looked into this Ebola crisis. We have to look at it because it’s rising. Beyond what we’re doing now, the President said we have to look at it and see whatever restrictions we might need to make to safeguard Nigerians. We cannot afford to fold our arms.”

When pressed for specific measures to be taken by the Federal Government, the official declined to speak. (Punch)

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BREAKING: Anglican Church Places Archbishop Ibezim on Six-Month Leave, Bars Him From Church Duties

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Primate appoints Bishop Ezeofor to oversee Awka Diocese, Province of the Niger amid investigation

The Church of Nigeria (Anglican Communion) has directed the Archbishop of the Province of the Niger and Bishop of the Diocese of Awka, Most Rev. Alexander C. Ibezim, to proceed on six months’ leave with immediate effect amid investigations into allegations and recent developments within the diocese.

The Primate of the Church of Nigeria, Most Rev. Henry C. Ndukuba, announced the decision in a letter dated Tuesday, October 13, 2026, while appointing the Bishop of the Diocese of Aguata, Rt. Rev. Samuel Ezeofor, as Supervising Bishop of the Diocese of Awka and Coordinating Bishop of the Province of the Niger during Ibezim’s absence.

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In the letter addressed to Ibezim, Ndukuba said the decision followed developments in the Diocese of Awka that had raised concerns about the integrity and reputation of the Church of Nigeria.

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He referenced administrative investigations into the matter, particularly the report of a visitation team led by the Dean of the Church of Nigeria, which had been submitted and considered by the church leadership.

The Primate also cited a meeting with Ibezim on Friday, October 9, during which the visitation team’s report was discussed.

According to the letter, the directive was issued pursuant to Section 29(1) of Chapter V of the Constitution and Canons of the Church of Nigeria (Anglican Communion), 2020, which provides for the Primate’s general authority and supervisory powers over the church.

Ndukuba explained that the administrative measure was intended to facilitate a fair and thorough investigation, while creating an opportunity to restore peace and promote reconciliation within the Diocese of Awka.

He stressed that the leave should not be interpreted as a disciplinary sanction but as an administrative arrangement designed to allow an impartial inquiry into the issues affecting the diocese.

The letter stated that the leave would last for an initial period of six months, subject to any revision the church leadership might consider necessary.

During this period, Ezeofor will assume episcopal responsibilities and oversee the affairs of both the Diocese of Awka and the Province of the Niger.

Ibezim was also directed not to officiate at any activities of the Church of Nigeria (Anglican Communion), the Province of the Niger or the Diocese of Awka throughout the period of his leave.

The Primate further instructed the archbishop to make immediate arrangements to hand over his responsibilities to Ezeofor at his office before departing.

Copies of the letter were sent to Ezeofor, the Chancellor and Registrar of the Church of Nigeria, the Provincial Council of the Province of the Niger and the Diocesan Board of the Diocese of Awka.

Background to the controversy

Although the letter did not disclose the specific allegations against Ibezim or provide details of the visitation team’s findings, reports have linked the controversy to allegations that the archbishop sold church lands valued at more than ₦2 billion without authorisation.

The allegation reportedly triggered a legal and ecclesiastical dispute, alongside speculation that the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) was seeking to arrest the archbishop.

The development followed a petition dated July 28 and submitted to the EFCC’s Enugu Zonal Directorate by Chief G. Tagbo (SAN) of Ike Ike Associates on behalf of Echezona Onuigbo, a member of St. Faith Cathedral, Awka.

However, an arrest was reportedly restrained by the Anambra State High Court sitting in Awka following an order granted by Justice F. I. Aniukwu in response to a motion ex parte dated September 4, 2025. The application was filed by Ibezim through his counsel, B. E. I. Nwofor (SAN).

The controversy also reportedly resulted in the removal of the Chancellor of the Diocese of Awka, Hon. Justice O. J. Okeke (retd.), by the archbishop.

The circumstances surrounding the allegations and the outcome of the church’s ongoing investigation remain unclear, as the Primate’s letter did not disclose the details of the findings or specify the allegations under investigation.

The six-month leave and the appointment of Ezeofor mark a significant administrative development in the leadership of the Diocese of Awka and the Province of the Niger as the church seeks to address the issues and restore stability.

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Gunmen Abduct Catholic Priest in Benue, Police Launch Rescue Operation

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Gunmen have abducted a Catholic priest, Rev. Fr. John Inalegwu Otache, in Benue State, triggering a security operation to secure his safe release.

Fr. Otache, the Parish Priest of St. Margaret’s Parish, Ajegbe-Awume, in Ohimini Local Government Area, was reportedly kidnapped on Tuesday, October 13, 2026, while returning from Otukpo along the Otobi Amejo-Ajegbe Road.

The abduction is said to be the second reported kidnapping involving a priest serving at the parish.

Confirming the incident, the spokesperson of the Benue State Police Command, DSP Aondogu Orchia, said tactical teams had been deployed to track down the kidnappers and rescue the priest.

Meanwhile, the Catholic Bishop of Otukpo Diocese, Most Rev. Michael Ekwoyi Apochi, has appealed to the public to intensify prayers for the safe and unharmed return of the abducted cleric.

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The police have commenced efforts to locate the perpetrators and secure the priest’s release.

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