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It’s mysterious how I slept with my 14-year-old daughter four times and impregnated her -Father

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A 49-year-old man, Amoda Bola, who was arrested by the Ogun State Police Command for allegedly raping his 14-year-old daughter, narrated what happened to DAUD OLATUNJI of The Punch

What do you do for a living?

I work as a dry cleaner in Ishara. I live in the Ishara area of Remo-North.

How many children do you have?

I have five children.

What is the position of the one who accused you of raping and impregnating her?

She is my fourth child.

Does her mother stay with you?

I divorced her mother after she gave birth to the girl (victim). She has been married to another man in Ilorin. I do not have a wife presently. But I used to have a girlfriend.

How did you manage to raise the girl after you divorced your wife and she left you?

The girl was kept in the custody of her maternal grandmother. I sponsored her education for a while before the grandmother stopped me from seeing my child at her school. She started staying with me three years ago. She decided to live with me when she came on a holiday visit to her mother’s sister’s residence. I told her not to return to her grandmother because she told me that her grandmother had not been paying her school fees. Thereafter, I enrolled her in a school and she stayed.

Did you find your daughter sexually attractive to you?

She was not attractive to me. It’s forbidden to be attracted to one’s daughter.

Your daughter alleged that you raped her and also invited some men to rape her as well. What can you say about it?

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I didn’t invite men to have sexual intercourse with my child. I didn’t know those men before now. I only met them when everything was exposed. They never set foot in my house. They had intercourse with her in their various homes; not in my house.

Is it true that you slept with her?

Yes.

How many times did you sleep her?

I had intercourse with her four times. Twice last year and twice this year.

What prompted you to do that?

I still can’t believe I did such. It still looks like I’m seeing a movie. I have never done anything to her elder ones.

Did you deflower her?

I didn’t deflower her. She was not a virgin when it happened.

So, how did it happen?

It happened when I came back from work. She was alone at home with me. So, I told her to bring my food. I didn’t know when I grabbed her and had intercourse with her.

What did she do?

She did not want to fight me. She cried afterwards and asked why I did that to her. Then I pleaded with her to forgive me. It saddens me that I committed such a great sin. A month after that, it happened the second time. I mean I had intercourse with her the second time, with no protest from her.

The third occurrence happened in July this year (2022). I told her to wait for me in my room after she fetched water for me to shower. But I later changed my mind. I didn’t join her in the room. She came to ask why I was hesitating to come inside the house. Afterwards, something in me asked why I was wasting time, so I went in with her and it happened again.

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Where were your other children when you were committing the act?

They were not aware. It happened while they were at the shop. We don’t share the same room.

How old is her pregnancy?

I don’t know. I didn’t even know she was pregnant. I was informed after my arrest.

Do you realise that what you did is a taboo in Yoruba culture?

I know, and I regret it. It is a terrible thing to do. It’s still a mystery to me.

Are you sure she is your biological daughter?

She is my daughter. I’m her father. Though she didn’t live with me from the start, she came back to live with me three years ago when she was 11 years old.  She lived with her maternal grandmother before then.

You said you had a girlfriend. Where is she?

I used to have a girlfriend but the relationship ended in July when my daughter told her I didn’t like her. I told my girlfriend everything when she confronted me about it and she stopped communicating with me.

You also said your daughter was not a virgin and that some men slept with her on different occasions. Has she ever had an abortion?

Yes. Five months ago, I took her to the hospital where a pregnancy was aborted. The pregnancy was a month old when I discovered she was pregnant. So, I asked if she would keep the pregnancy or abort it so she could continue her education and she suggested an abortion. I paid for the abortion. The doctor demanded N13,000 but I paid N10,000.

How will you describe the character of your daughter?

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She is gentle but stubborn. She is well exposed as well.

What do you mean by saying she is exposed?

She is exposed. Even her mother can testify to it. Her mother had told me that I had to handle her with an iron hand if she would have to live with me because she is wayward.

Did you know your daughter had a boyfriend?

I was unaware until after the arrest. But her siblings did complain that she took her time to return home when she was sent on errands. I always warned her whenever I got the report about her waywardness. But I was always careful not to hurt her since she was the only daughter from her mother’s side.

Why didn’t you make the man that got her pregnant to take responsibility for his action?

I couldn’t marry her off because she was still a pupil and I wanted her to be educated. That was why I opted for an abortion.

How did you feel when you learnt some men had carnal knowledge of your daughter?

I always felt terrible about it. Whenever I got such information, I went ahead to warn them to never get intimate with my daughter again. I only warned them because I believe in forgiveness.

You said what happened was a mystery to you. Did you seek help?

Yes, I did seek help from a herbalist and he told me it was a spiritual issue. He told me to make a sacrifice which I did. I made the sacrifice just the Sunday before my arrest.

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Alarming rate of divorce among young couples in FCT worries Cleric

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Abubakar was speaking at the Annual Ramadan Lecture organised by the Afemai Islamic Movement in Abuja on Sunday with the theme: ‘ The Role of Parent in Raising God Fearing Children’.

The scholar called on parents to ensure they follow the Islamic regulations before giving their children out in marriage.

According to him, most parents don’t follow the instructions of the Holy Quran but only follow their children’s bidding when the issue of marriage arises.

” As a judge, we are having a high rate of divorce, especially the rate in the FCT is so alarming, young couples in two years, three years marriage, dragged themselves to courts.

” And we discovered that in so many of it there is no other way than to just separate them to live in peace.

” The implication is that if we don’t follow the Islamic regulation by making prayers to Allah for guidance and follow the Islamic teaching, their will be domestic problems.

” This teaching is for the husband to know his duty and his rights and for the wife to lower her duty and rights and by the time you think of those rules, it is to bring harmony in our homes,” he said.

He added that though Islamically, divorce was acceptable, but adding that it was also detestable, hence parents must find ways to help their children come out of it.

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Abubakar charged parents to take a lead role in their children’s decision in taking a life partner, saying this would help guild their choices and ensure the couple live together thereafter.

According to him, if a woman is pious, it gives you 70 per cent assurance that the choice of their children in marriage will not be bias.

” As a Muslim, you must ensure that your home is an Islamic home, a home where you recite the Quran, a home where you take turn to gather the children and teach them the word of Allah.

” You teach them the words of the prophets and not just allow them to fully have western education but add Islamic education to it as this will guarantee your children will be pious Muslims,” he added.

Also speaking, the Chairman of the Board of Trustee of the Afemai Islamic Movement, Alhaji Momodu Kadiri said the aimed of the movement was to promote Islam among the Edo people in Abuja and Muslims across the country.

Kadiri urged Muslims to work together to promote the good course of Islam.

He said that the movement which started in 2001 had been able to acquire over 40 hectares of land in Abuja for the construction of mosque and schools to train youths on skills acquisitions.

He, therefore, solicit the support of well-meaning Nigerians to achieve the dream of the association.

The Afemai is an ethnic group living in the northern part of Edo, South-South geopolitical zone of Nigeria.

They occupy six local government areas of Etsako West, with headquarters in Auchi, Etsako Central, Etsako East, Owan East, Owan West and Akoko Edo. (NAN)

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VIDEO: ‘I’ll pay salary to any man willing to marry me’, Nigerian lady in France begs

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A Nigerian lady living in France has said that she is in dire need of a life partner and ready to pay whoever is willing to be the partner.

In a viral video online, the woman seen on her knees saying age is no longer on her side. Also mixed reactions trailed her video as netizens shared their thoughts on her desperate appeal.

According to her, she has a house in Lagos, two hostels in Awada and an African shop in France where she is.

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Why divorce is on the increase in Nigeria

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In recent time, divorce has been on the increase and it is a major cause for concern for those who respect the institution of marriage in Nigeria. Divorce can occur for a variety of reasons, many of which are still being discovered. Here are some of the causes of rising rate of divorce in Nigeria.

Infidelity

Infidelity is a significant contributor to divorce. It is one of the legal reasons for divorce in addition to the longer-than-a-year separation and abuse of your spouse (mental or physical). You only share everything with the person you are married to.

Lack of proper communication

Couples who cease communicating with one another may also feel alone and isolated and stop showing affection to one another altogether. The relationship can end as a result of this.

Lack of forgiveness

Unforgiveness generates grief and resentment, which develops wickedness and hatred. This is the explanation for why partners are murdered in their sleep by their spouses. Without forgiveness, nothing and no one can endure in any marriage.

Lack of love

Without love, marriage is merely a contract and will lack the qualities of love listed above. Only love can motivate two people to be married. Thinking of your spouse before yourself is a sign of true marital love. Always put your spouse first and be willing to support them no matter what.

Lack of mental preparation

Another reason for the increase of divorce in Nigeria is the lack of mental preparation among married couples. It is as such good for everyone to have a consciousness of their mental readiness for marriage. Knowing this will alert you to be on the lookout for the unexpected and nothing will catch you off guard.

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